I'm working on a non-fiction project called Bohemian Forgiveness: Five Unconventional Paths to Forgiving What You'll Never Forget. There's not much to see on the Facebook page for now but it will come, and I'll be sure to keep you posted.
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Last week, I wrapped with plans to expand on the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Here's my personal take on them during first year of divorce. True to form, they're twisted and yet, truthful:
- Denial. Anger expressed over trivial things because I was devastated by the minimization of the major things.
- Anger. An outward expression of the inward pain caused by blatant disrespect, both personal and for the female gender.
- Bargaining. This was my "anger management" phase where like Esau in Genesis 27, I consoled myself with the thought of murder.
- Depression. In this stage I conceded as to just how vulnerable a position I allowed myself to be in when I got "hosed," which included a secondary phase expressed with the rhetorical question: Why did I eat, drink, smoke, or do that?
I refer to this stage as downward dog depression.
- Acceptance. I resolved to be angry about what happened and yet refused to allow the anger to define me.
Published on Tuesday, October 14, 2014 @ 7:29 PM CDT