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Last week, I wrapped with plans to expand on the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Here's my personal take on them during first year of divorce. True to form, they're twisted and yet, truthful:
- Denial. Anger expressed over trivial things because I was devastated by the minimization of the major things.
- Anger. An outward expression of the inward pain caused by blatant disrespect, both personal and for the female gender.
- Bargaining. This was my "anger management" phase where like Esau in Genesis 27, I consoled myself with the thought of murder.
- Depression. In this stage I conceded as to just how vulnerable a position I allowed myself to be in when I got "hosed," which included a secondary phase expressed with the rhetorical question: Why did I eat, drink, smoke, or do that?
I refer to this stage as downward dog depression.
- Acceptance. I resolved to be angry about what happened and yet refused to allow the anger to define me.
Published on Tuesday, October 14, 2014 @ 7:29 PM CDT