"Wendy has discovered the way to healing and forgiveness after abuse and betrayal. A gifted writer and speaker, she offers hope to those who've been betrayed by people they loved and trusted. Wendy is living proof that there is indeed life after abuse, and freedom from a life bound by fear, confusion, and depression."
Linda Godsey [Associate Pastor, Freedom Ministries] Gateway Church, Southlake, TX
Victims of abuse and betrayal have tough questions. Wendy Redroad has practical answers.
The rise in sexual abuse, domestic violence, and addiction/co-dependency is staggering in this generation. Wendy Redroad is no stranger to the effects of childhood sexual abuse, an addicted loved one, the betrayal of friends, and the long-term abuse and deceit that ends a marriage.
She knows how it feels when the pastor says, "You must forgive!"--but you can't. The longing for validation, comfort, and justice. The rage of being discounted and the despair of being misunderstood.
She speaks into the lives of those who beat to a different drum--bohemian style, which is little sassy and slightly unconventional because she's made peace with the notion that while she doesn't always "fit in"-- she belongs. Her passion is to empower women to overcome the effects of abuse and betrayal and inspire them to roll up their sleeves and come alongside countless others.
We get better together.
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"Insurances companies and hurting believers take notice . . . How to Forgive What You'll Never Forget offers more healing than what you'd receive in a hospital stay."
--Ron Hall [New York Times Best Selling Author] Same Kind of Different As Me
How to Forgive What You'll Never Forget pours free-spirited insight into conventional methods of forgiveness. With her signature warmth and wit, Wendy Redroad offers an innovative approach to forgiving abuse and betrayal--bohemian style--as she empowers women to forgive what they will never forget.
- Why is it that earnest forgivers fall into the cracks of despair after they've chosen to forgive?
- Why do believers repeat prayers, re-take classes, and re-read books on the topic of forgiveness?
- Why do so few Christians ask in church: Why can't I forgive?
What if you knew the answers to these questions? What if the struggle to forgive could be demystified in one simple Bible-based truth? It can.
The Bible depicts 5 instinctual desires that arise from harm and betrayal. You were created with the capacity for each desire. The million dollar question isn't whether or not you should have them, but rather, who's got control--God or the enemy? Wendy's message is the first to compare and contrast how the enemy fulfills these desires, and what it looks like when Christ takes the lead.
*This 35 minute message can stand alone for general audiences or serve as 1 of 3 sessions in an in depth conference or retreat.
Is Your Savior Your Healer?
When children incur physical wounds they want parents to make it better--without touching the wound. Cleansing dirt and grass out of a skinned knee is a painful process, and yet necessary for healing.
Wendy shares a personal story to illustrate how adult children of God share a similar mindset in regards to emotional wounds. Like children, grown-ups want really cool Band-aids. And let's face it, ladies, often times our preferred Band-aids are new shoes and Chardonnay, while Jesus is more interested in our boo-boos. This heartfelt message helps women to:
- Understand how they unknowingly withhold self-care and therefore, hinder restoration
- Recognize and leverage the ordinary circumstances Christ uses to cleanse emotional wounds
- Grant God sovereignty over their pain by coupling tangible daily steps with supportive Scripture
*35 minute message for general audiences