1 Corinthians 10: 23 says "Everything is permissible"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"--but not everything is constructive. (NIV) New King James says, all things are lawful, but not all things edify.
In keeping with the context of this scripture, we must be willing to think outside of just ourselves. As Christians, our choices should edify the body of Christ. As wives, our choices should edify us, our spouses, and our families. But how does this unfold in everyday life?
For me, it means that when opportunities arise, I must consider how my repsonses to those opportunities will effect others. I recently received an invitation to a party. It sounds like fun. And I could use some fun. But the reality is, between preparing for a writer's conference, caring for a sick child, updating my website, creating a One Sheet for my CPA, and giving my best in my day job as a Clinical Massage Therapist, I'm physically exhausted.
What would benefit me the most right now is physical rest. While attending a fun party sounds . . . well, fun, the truth is, I don't have the physical energy. So, though it's permissible, it would not be beneficial. An exhausted woman is no good to anyone. Not her husband, not her family, and not the women she is passionate about encouraging everyday. So, after careful consideration of my party invitation; regrets it is.
If I were simply emotionally exhausted, it would better benefit me, my husband, my family, and you, precious readers, to attend a fun party and re-charge. And that's how it works for me.
How about you? Do you pause to consider if what you're considering, though permissible, is beneficial?
Published on Wednesday, April 6, 2011 @ 11:39 AM CDT
Several years ago I had a habit of enabling my boyfriend (now clean and sober husband's) drug addiction. Though I couldn't see it at the time. I was just trying to "help." Help him get off drugs--and stay off drugs. Help him keep his apartment clean. Help him wake up on time so he wouldn't be late for work. Help him become the man I needed him to be.
One day his sponsor said to me, "Michael would find God a lot faster if you and his grandmother would get out of the way and let him hit rock bottom."
He was right.
It turns out, when I got out of the way, we both hit bottom and found God. Over the years, God has transformed us into who He created us to be: Effective for Christ, of sound mind, healed, and happily married.
Is it time for you to get out of the way and let God be God in the life of a loved one? Perhaps your own life?
Published on Thursday, October 29, 2009 @ 5:05 PM CDT