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"Wendy Redroad is our go-to girl on the topic of forgiveness. She shares a powerful journey intertwining healing and forgiveness for women who've suffered all manner of abuse. She is relatable, compassionate, and biblically sound in her approach as she takes women by the hand and gently walks them through their own journey to healing and freedom."

--Carrie Gurley [Executive Director] Valiant Hearts





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Tuesday, December 12, 2017 1:21 PM

My Apologies . . .

Tuesday, December 12, 2017 1:21 PM
Tuesday, December 12, 2017 1:21 PM

Golly. I didn't intend to go off the radar. In the midst of blogging a five-week series I ran into technical difficulties. I'd just completed Week 3. It didn't post, didn't save, didn't anything. I tried again. Still, nothing. 

Thanksgiving was fast approaching, and I was scheduled to help my siblings pack up the house of my deceased stepmother to prepare for an estate sale. She was diagnosed with brain, lung, and liver cancer the second week of June. She died on the 28th of August. I never mentioned this, but my father passed away seventeen months ago. A botched surgery took his life, and suffice to say, it was heart breaking. 

They were married 40 years. That's a lot of history to sort through. Mountains--valleys. And it's why I disappeared. A lot of good goes on in my life. But packing up my parent's things has taken a toll on me. I wasn't prepared for the waves of emotion. How odd it is to sort through and pack up personal items. It's not all dishes and bath towels. (I'm learning as I go.)

With this confession I offer my sincere apologies for going silent. I have a lot to grieve and a lot to love about my life. I think between now and the New Year, I'll take a little break and practice what I preach: Self-care.

I'll have something to say again. It's me. Of course I will. But some things in life need to marinate before they become sources of encouragement to others. Some things require contemplative prayer for the rooting of solid truth and peace that surpasses all understanding.

I pray for you this Advent and Christmas Season. I wish you peace and good and JOY. Please take the time to read and re-read the last two blogs on self-care. They are not to be skimmed over or taken lightly. Consider puting into practice just one suggestion from the week titled: value. (scroll down to read)

Look at me, already all out of words. I remember when I was numb. When I couldn't cry. Today, the ability to grieve is a gift. I will hold it tenderly as Love shapes my faith through trials.

Peace to you, friend,




Friday, October 13, 2017 1:06 PM

"MADE FOR EACH OTHER": The Relationship Between Self-care and Healing From Abuse

Friday, October 13, 2017 1:06 PM
Friday, October 13, 2017 1:06 PM


(Scroll down to read WEEK ONE: Value.)

Core Principle: We cannot overcome what we deny.

Foundational Scripture: "You shall love the Lord your God with all you heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself" (Luke 10: 10:27 NKJV). [emphasis added]

This week Dr. Robin Witt taught us the importance of proper breathing. Believe me, the moment a woman chooses to become an active participant in her own journey to healing, slow and focused breathing is something she will need to do a lot.

But don't let that freak you out! The good news, this is the way we should be breathing all day anyway, AND it is incredibly beneficial to the body, mind, and spirit.

Foundational Scripture:

"The Spirit of God has made me; the breath of the Almighty gives me life" (Job 33:4).

"In His hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind" (Job 12:10 NIV).

"This is what God the Lord says--the Creator of the heavens, who stretches them out, who spreads out the earth with all that springs from it, who gives breathe to its people, and life to those who walk on it: . . ." (Isaiah 42:5 NIV).

Let's practice breathing and while we're at it, imagine that with each breath we take, God Himself is breathing new life into us.

  1. Breathe through your nose not your mouth. (In AND out.)

  2. Take slow, moderate and balanced breaths vs. long, deep breaths. When a person is breathing properly their breathing shouldn't be that noticeable. Ex. Have you ever peeked in on your child while sleeping and they were breathing so peacefully you walked over to make sure he/she was breathing? That's how we should breath throughout the day! Breathe like a sleeping child.

3. Breathing through your nose reduces carbon dioxide in the blood, serving as a natural purifier. When painful memories of abuse arise and levels of anxiety threaten to overwhelm you, remind yourself that with every slow and focused breath you take, you are being purified by God's design.

I encourage you to review these companion blogs regularly. 


We get better together,


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